I believe that no one is 'essential' on this planet - everyone will go one day and the earth will still rotate and the sun will still rise in the east and set in the west. People make and break relationships, intentionally or not, and believe it's the end of the world if that's happened....

So, a few thoughts on relationships - making and breaking them:

1. What do you talk about to strangers or friends if you don't like to talk about

• other people
• yourself
• things that you've seen or done

tough one to answer right? well.. my answer is probably that you should just say something strange or stupid and see how people react then,

• if they laugh in a dismissive way - no point making friends with these people
• if they laugh in a friendly way - the conversation will start by itself
• if they don't hear you ...just go away.

2. What are the characteristics of good housemates

• They like to talk to each other
• They like to make fun of each other
• They want to do things together
• They keep the house clean for you....
  

3. How to break up a relationship without breaking someone's heart? (Tough one again)

• Take a break from each other and let things move on in their natural course
• Talk about it and try to understand that it is the mutually beneficial thing to do ... of course you can only do that with someone rational enough. (does it make sense to talk about rationality when we are talking about emotions... i wonder..).
  
• Act in a weird way such that the other person is disgusted...e.g. have a piece of garlic, drink a few cans of beer, burp, fart, and break everything in the house... should not break a heart but break a house maybe....

4. How do you make friends and keep your friends close? buy a mobile phone!

Relationships are just connections i guess - they need a medium to exist (phone, meetings, eye contact, body contact, etc...) - cut the medium and you cut off the relationship.... but can you really cut off a connection that transcends the physical links.... e.g. the connection between two minds, two thoughts, two hearts....? I think you can't.

The Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda/Volume 1/Raja-Yoga/Prana - Wikisource

The Complete Works of Swami Vivekananda/Volume 1/Raja-Yoga/Prana - Wikisource

I'm back to blogging - things have changed so much since I wrote a few words here and most of my 'fans' have left me anyway.... But for those who will come to this page by some luck here's an update on what's been happening in my life in the last few years:
1. My dad passed away on the 8th of October 2007 - the saddest and hardest part of my life. No one meant more to me than him.
2. I thought i'd get married end of 2008 but it was not meant to be.
3. I made some new friends, lost some new friends, and got some old friends back.

I'm going back to being the same person I was. So here are some of my rambles :-)

a. What is summer in Southampton ?? 21 degrees is warm.

b. How do you open a door that has been locked from inside - there's a simple trick but my housemate wasn't patient enough to let me do it completely - remove the strip that is aligned against the edge of the door, push a sharp knife through the part where the lock is and voila! - we eventually broke the door of course,.... but i knew how to do it...

c. What do you do when you don't feel like talking to someone:
- turn off your phone (why this one first?)
- not talk
- make sure you don't make eye contact
- make sure you are not around that someone

d. Try listening to Darren Hayes's last album (This delicate thing we've made) - some of you find it hard but it's really refreshing music and good lyrics - tracks 2, 6 and 9 (disc 1) are my favourites.